My kids wet the bed.
It has taken me a long time to admit that without feeling shame about it. I used to feel like a failure, as if only a bad parent couldn’t figure out how to make their kid snap out of it.
But I’m now at a place where I can admit it. It’s not my fault. It’s not their fault. It happens.
Now, what to do about it?
After struggling with this for over 8 long years, believe me, we have tried everything. Withholding liquids. Waking them up to pee. Nighttime alarms. Different herbs and essential oils. They even attended chiropractic appointments for over a year. Nothing stopped the bedwetting.
I did a lot of research, and many experts agree that the best way to combat bedwetting is: to not. Simply let the kids grow out of it, and they will eventually. Most kids outgrow bedwetting around age 7. If they are still wetting after that, they will usually stop around puberty (age 12-14). My two older kids are the bedwetters, and they are currently ages 8 and 10.
It was an exhausting time in my life when I was trying to fight the fight and stop the bedwetting. But now, I feel like we have a good routine going and we’re just riding it out until this period in their lives is over. And they don’t have the same shame and guilt about it that they did before. It’s just something that happens.
Here are our various methods for dealing with bedwetting in a frugal way.
At home, we have 5 washable bed pads for our 2 wetters. That’s 2 per kid plus an extra. These were an expensive initial investment, but they are much cheaper in the long run. Every night before bed, they grab a bed pad and put it on their bed. In the morning, they shower, and then they bring down the wet pad along with their soiled pjs. I wash all of these items on hot, dry them, and fold them on top of the dryer to be used again.
Price: $16.95 per pad x 5 pads = $84.75 ÷ 2 kids = $42.38 ÷ 10 years = 1¢ per night.
When we travel, we get the kids the cheap brand of overnights, which we call “sleeping underwear”. My petite 8 year old can still wear 4T/5T pull-ups (we get the cheap store brand). My 10 year old wears the XL Goodnites.
Price: 34¢-54¢ per night.
At Sleepovers or Camp
When the kids will be sleeping overnight near friends, we don’t want the kids to be embarrassed by other kids who might call their sleeping underwear a “diaper”. So we splurged a little on these Goodnites Tru-Fit Underwear, which look and feel like regular underwear, but have liners that can be removed and thrown out. I’ve spoken with them on how to handle the whole process discreetly, and no one has ever discovered their “secret”.
Price: 77¢ per night.
I look forward to the day when we don’t need to deal with any of it any more, but for now this seems to be working for us! If you have bedwetters, how do YOU handle it?